Is it okay to love another more than yourself? I fell into this discussion with a loved one, which got me thinking, pondering about the nature of loving another more than yourself. Is this okay? And what is “okay” really? Ultimately, we are talking about health. Is it healthy to love another more than yourself? Are there times when it is healthy and times when it is unhealthy?
What I have found is that yes, loving another more than yourself can at times present as a healthy alignment. A beautiful example is the unconditional love of a parent for a child. The love is pure, selfless. The parent sees the child as the apple of his or her eye. The child is pure, perfect, worthy. The child can accomplish anything he or she sets out to do in life, in the eyes of the parent, in a state of pure, unconditional love. In a state of pure, unconditional love for another, you naturally see he or she as amazing, beautiful, able to do anything in life. There is nothing unhealthy about this. In fact, feeling into this frequency of unconditional love is pure, transformative, and, more than healthy, it is healing. Unconditional love is a very high frequency place to reside, no matter whether you are feeling it for yourself or for another.
So, what does this mean, then? How could we love another more than ourselves? Well, take a look at yourself and your relationship with yourself. Do you think highly of yourself? Do you believe in yourself? Do you have a positive self-image? Overall, what is your quality of life? Chances are, due to social and societal conditioning, you have some gaps in self-love. I encourage you to strive for self-love. Strive for passion, a positive self-image, a true love of oneself. Have fun. Play. Enjoy this life, this body, and this experience. The experience of having unconditional love of another can provide a template for treating our gaps in self-love. Do you think as highly of ourselves as you think of this other being? Why do you not feel worthy of the same appraise? You do, beloveds.
I believe loving another more than yourself can only become unhealthy at the point where it can become self-deprecating. For example, say you are in a relationship with someone you have true unconditional love for. You may view them so highly, as to put them on a pedestal. If you do not have the same respect for yourself, your mind can wander into a space where you are unworthy to be with this other being, or you may compare yourself negatively to him or her. Use this as an opportunity for deepened self-love. Deepen your connection with yourself and your heart. Pursue what sets your soul on fire. Live the life you have always dreamed of in the now by having the courage to know your worth. You are worthy, dear ones, and don’t you ever forget it.
We are entering a time of deepening the connection with the Self, learning about who we truly are and who we are not. We are not our limiting thoughts. We are not the voice inside our head which gets us down and stops us from pursuing our soul path. We are love. We are truth. We are a Divine piece of God connected to the All, having a shared experience to bring about a new paradigm of love on this planet. Forgive yourself and others. Live in compassionate presence for yourself and those around you. Love yourself as deeply as you can, and share your this love with all those you meet. You are a beautiful spark of heaven, and it is time to spread your light.